Well, it was kinda by accident. Prior to all this I had never heard of an emotional affair. It was only after I found out about them that I did some reading and ran across the term. I had always trusted my wife, even when it came to her guy friends. At times it would make me a little jealous, but I never let her know. I had been having a feeling that things were going downhill between us but I just dismissed it as stress and the like. I was finishing up my MBA and was gone most nights until 9:30pm or so to class. After I finally finished my MBA (DEC. 2005) I was home quite a bit more, but things weren’t getting any better. Finally one night when we were ML I knew something was wrong. It was the first time ever that I felt she didn’t want to be there. It got me to thinking about something I had run across on the computer a few months earlier. The next day, I did some digging and found some emails that were quite explicit in a private e-mail account she had. She denied anything at first, but when I produced the emails there wasn’t much she could say. Things just went downhill from there. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t entirely her fault. There were a lot of other things leading up to this which were my fault. It’s quite a long story.
