You know, it just seems so unfair. why can't they sit us down for a serious convo, and insist that there is a problem , before they make the decision to get into an emotional attachment with someone else. I would have taken him seriously, and wanted to help fix our problems. My H did the same thing and avoided conflict for the most part, shut himself away from the family, and said we would miss him when he was gone. How was I to know it was a warning? I would say to him we didn't want him to go anywhere, but I think by then, he was already in the EA. How can one help H to break up the ties and obligations he feels toward the OW? He says it has never been sexual, but he feels obligated to her somehow. Why? He's know her maybe 1 1/2 to two years. He and I have been together for twenty-seven, and have a child, and a home and lots of family we love. I also thought WE had an emotional bond. How to get that back? Anyone else out there going through this with H orW saying it isn't sexual, only emotional? Please, tell me about your sitch, maybe we can figure it all out. L
