Elizabeth, yes, I have told him it was inappropriate, yes, he told me it was over even though I know they are still seeing each other and calling each other. He really thinks I believe that he gave the secret cell phone to her to deal with and pay for.NOT! He has told me that the EA is something he did for himself and he cares about OW.That the EA is a good thing, he isn't sorry or guilty. he has also trashed almost our entire M, too. I just wonder who the fella is in all the pics over the past twenty-three years smiling as though he was happy. He also was a major family man, saying just a few months age that he would rather spend time off work with his family. I can only hope that H being at home makes him feel some remorse for what it could ultimately do to our S13. Right now, though, he says he doesn't care, he was tired of doing for others, this is his time to do for himself. I, too have had thoughts of retribution, like maybe a billboard with "The Face Of A Husband-Stealing Whore" on it with her picture. I wish I did have your nerve to write her a letter, but H would freak out and probably move out. Yeah, I can wait, too. I hope she doesn't, and moves on so H can see her for what she really is. Thanks, Elizabeth, it helps to talk to someone who, unfortunately, is in the same boat as I am.
P.S. H said he didn't need counseling it was all my problem, all my fault he "had" EA P.S. I want to hear more about what you are doing, and what's working or what didn't.
