My H is still at home and yes he said it was over with OW. I know he still has the "secret" cell phone, and that she leaves him several messages a day on most days. Mostly they are "Hey sweetheart, I (giggle giggle) am just about to leave for work, If you get this in the next five minutes, call me." Or, "Hey sweetheart, there is a black man walking down the street carrying a backpack, there's no telling what's in it.You might want to check him out." Or, "My friend saw someone driving very fast down the highway, and thought I should tell you to look out for him." Or, "Sorry I missed your call, call me back later." Or, "My mother is having surgery tomorrow." Or, "This is your favorite (giggle giggle) giggle box". So, they seem to have some sort of bond. It nauseates me to no end. She seems to play on his protective instinct, when I feel he should be protecting his own family from this kind of trash that blows in. But , yes he is at home, and we are sleeping together with occasional ML. He always thought I had a problem with having sex with him, but it was usually his timing, because I like it. And now, I am giving him all he wants and then some, so at least if they start a PA, then when she starts to turn him down, he will have the passionate nights and days of me to remember, and wish for. I hate (sort of) to say it, but I sometimes wish something truly awful would happen to her, but I know that is not the way a Christian should think, but I try to be more positive these days and H and I have gotten along well since our big blowup Sunday afternoon. I know she has written him letters saying she didn't want to give her heart if it was going to get broken, and other vile crap like that. All I can say is I couldn't care less about her disgusting heart. I think you are right, they are all just the same, they know how to play the game.
Astimegoeson, Maybe this guy will never get parole, hopefully.
NNP, yeah, I think so, too. It sure seems that way.
Elizabeth, what does your H do now? Does he come over and see the sanity of your household? The OW is obviously a fruitcake, and when your H "wakes up", hopefully he will say WHAT IN THE HECK was I thinking? I know men like some excitement in their lives, just not insanity.
Please all, keep posting, I want to hear all about these emotional trainwrecks and how yours are going, and any thing that's helped you, L