I have to agree with ElizabethJ. My W had and is still possibly having an EA with a prison inmate. This Man was engaged to be married with her before his incarceration 15 years ago and before I started dating her 10 years ago. We have been married for 8 years now. I can tell you from experience that even though the physical part is impossible at this point, there still is a VERY strong bond that I doubt will be broken easily. She says it's over and I don't know whether to believe her or not. She also questions the harm of it... Oh of course honey there is nothing wrong with a M woman spending her whole Saturday afternoon in the prison visiting an inmate. I've been lied to so many times that I just stopped verifying what she tells me a long time ago. It does give me pause to reconcile with her at this time simply because I do not want to be having to constantly look over my shoulder every time this Man comes up for a parole hearing. If it was just a quick PA, I think I could forget and move on a little easier, but these EA can last a long time. When we were dating and before I married her, she swore up and down that she never really loved this Man and that she was completely over him, but 15 years later here we are.
It's my belief that these EA are far more disruptive and dangerous to a M then a physical one. Tread lightly!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
