Changing their minds?

[alamogirl]

Please excuse me for butting in but it seems like there is a lot of friendly dialogue here, which I need right now .

Today, during counseling, my WAH told me that he was thinking more and more about filing for divorce. OUCH! We've been married 12 years, separated for the last 5 months (3 Jun 06).

We just grew apart. I knew there were problems, but I just thought they would work themselves out. We were so close. I just couldn't picture us splitting up.

After my H said that he was leaning towards a divorce, he said something like maybe we can work on our relationship after the divorce...HUH? What the heck for?

I think he's going through MLC. He's 43, unemployed FT college student. He stuck by me when I was getting my degree. He told the counselor that he wants to concentrate on school without distractions.

I do have to admit that our sex life was non-existent for the last 2-3 years. As a matter of fact, he gave that as a reason for leaving. The more I look at our situation, the more I realize that it was an excuse. Otherwise, don't you think he would be willing to give us another chance? He told me that there isn't anyone else, and I never saw any signs that he had someone. He still appears to not have anyone because he's almost always available when I need something. I'm now trying to do things for myself. It's going to be hard because I suffer from back pain. I always depended on him to do the "heavy" work.

Anyway, thanks for listening, and I hope we can continue our dialogue.

alamogirl