Well, I've been backing off for at least a week, and I DO notice a difference in my H's attitude. He is calling me more and seems more comfortable around me. It's not fixing my M, but it is definitely making things less reactive. I suppose after 1 1/2 years of separation, I can't expect much more than that. For now, and for the first time, I am considering the R as over. Maybe this will take the pressure off and we'll connect again...maybe it won't, but at least I'll be well on my way to happiness in my 'new' life!
