First, I want to say thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my post; for this messageboard and for your books. (My counselor, by the way, has DB and is getting more of your books on my recommendation.)
My counselor told me this week that she feels H is the kind of guy who is mentally and emotionally present with his body. (Sounds kind of strange, but I understand what she meant and don't want to get into a long explanation of that.) So just the fact that he wants to be with me tells me that he wants to be with me. I also know that his precarious job situation, our up-in-the-air housing arrangement, and my upcoming job decision has him very concerned about finances and, therefore, pregnancy.
I think his fear of pregnancy has been the overwhelming factor here. Have I talked to him? Yes. He just likes it and has been worried about pregnancy. My concern was just whether or not he would still feel emotionally connected to me through oral sex. But things are getting back to normal, and I'm not as concerned about it.
Again, thank you for taking the time to read and respond and for all you do for people.