Hi Michelle, My H and I have been separated since mid-May and I am currently six months pregnant. After talks about divorce (serious talks) I started the LRT. Well, he started calling more and initiating activities together (ballgame, lunch dates, going to church together) Needless to say, I was/am very excited about this turn of events. When H left, he started doing things totally out of character for him (drinking, experimenting with pills) and seemed to be in a mid-life crisis state. There have been some women since he left as well (and one right before he left-no "relationships" just one-night stands or flings) Anyways, he has recently been talking about getting his life straightened out. He has been going to church, bought a new bible, started listening to Christian music again, and began hinting about coming home. Well, he tells me last night that he wants to come home this weekend and I told him that I do want him home but we have much to talk about. (This is the second time we have been separated) When we talked tonight I told him that I want him home but I cannot go through this all again. I want him to come home for ME and not because of the baby, our son, or because he thinks it is what God would want. (when he left he said the classic: "I love you but I'm not in love with you") Things got very wierd at that moment and he basically said I was right and maybe we need to take things slower so he can think about things more and be "sure". Did I screw up?!! I totally freaked him out and he basically bolted out of here. We are going to see eachother tomorrow and he says we will just take it slow for now but he is definitely weirded out. Whenever we have done stuff lately it has just been friendly, no kisses and hugs are rare so I am confused on how to act. I do not want to scare him off any worse than I might have done already!! Should I go dark and let him figure out his feelings? Should I let him come home for a trial basis? (don't know if I could handle that if he decided to leave again) I just want him to be 100% committed to making us work, then I feel like we would have a chance! Any suggestions? Sorry so long. LC
