I do sympathize with "Lonely at Night." I've been in that lonely boat myself for several years. My husband suffers from depression, and this seems to have pushed him into a state of non-intimacy. At first he blamed me, then he stopped blaming anyone, although he still has no desire to be anything other than a room mate. It gets a little old at times. And what "Lonely" says about sleeping next to your spouse is so true, because even when there isn't any actual contact of a sexual nature, it can be very reassuring just to know that some cares enough to be vulnerable about waking up next to you in the morning. It is really frustrating and lonesome not to have that reassurance.
I have read several of the DB books and listened to the tapes too, many times over in fact. Also, I have spoken to two different phone counselors in your group as well as others in person and on the phone from other organizations. While it has helped matters some, I am really at an impasse and wondering how folks like "Lonely" and others like me can take any comfort in the long run. Please help, anybody? Thanks.
