Thanks Michelle, you're right its not reconciling its just working together to be a better parenting team. We are going to councelling to deal with parenting issues. Sometimes our son goes with his Dad; sometimes with me and then his Dad and I go together. He has never said I wasn't a good parent. I have never said he was a bad parent either - I have stated that he needs to spend more time with his son. I don't know if this is a good sign or nor, the "wasband" invited me to join him and our son for dinner tonight. Mind you, he had our son call and ask, so I bit the bullet and said yes that would be nice. I've also extended an invitation to him to join us for Thanksgiving Dinner on Monday (it's Thanksgiving in Canada). I won't put too much into either emotionally. I still need to figure out what works and what doesn't and work on the 180's. Part of it is - is not being too available. The other is not being too emotional around him. I need to be happy? and more in control? I am losing hope about reconciling and may just have to be content that we can be good parents and maybe friends. thanks Penny/Donna
Given a choice to stand aside or dance, I hope you always dance
