Thank you for your advice about staying connected through sex. I guess I am feeling just a little distant from my H now because he doesn't really talk to me anymore. He smiles, he acts attracted to me but I really don't feel close to him anymore. The relationship I have with my H now is based on memory ( that seems to be fading) and based on my desire to save the marriage. So I am unsure about what I will do. But as you have said, keep the goal in mind.
How long would it be considered to be a phase if my H only sees us at his convenience? This has been going on now for 3 months with no end in sight. Just this last weekend he left town to meet who knows who and then called my son from the airport and said he was coming over to watch a football game. We had not heard from him for days (he did not tell me he was going out of town) and then he just shows up and stays for hours. For a portion of that time he fell asleep on the couch and didn't interact with any of us.
Later on that night, he suggested that we all go camping next weekend. I am so confused.
