Have read DB 3 times and just finished reading your new book. It's the best. Thanks for writing it.
I'm 54. W is 52. Married 34 years in November. Three children are all grown and living on their own.
Bomb dropped October 2000. Went thru the various stages. Great sex and good times from October to May/01. May is when she started seeing a therapist. It's been downhill ever since. As of August/01 W has moved downstairs. We have good moments and bad. Both seeing a therapist, although not same. W has agreed to joint counselling 3 times but each time at the last minute cancelled out. We still live in the same house.
Have now set some goals and they seem to be working. We are moving slowlee.
There is OM. When she's in contact with him my anxiety levels go way up. Have tried setting boundaries to which she agrees and then promptly breaks her word. What can I do to minimize my anxiety short of closing my eyes and ears.
