Michele, thanks for the advice. I have written him many (hearfelt) letters and in the past, he has just rolled his eyes when he's received 'another one'. Well, it's been awhile and one more can't hurt! Perhaps I'll send it by email..better chance of it getting read I think!

We actually got into the dreaded OR conversation this evening. He told me again he doesn't 'need' a divorce, but that I should get on with my life. He also said he knows I care, but doesn't think I care 'enough'. This is the first time I've heard this. I asked what else I could do to 'prove' I love him, given he's involved with another person? He said he didn't know.

So, I should tell him again I'm sorry for his hurt and feelings of betrayal, that I'm not pushing anymore, and that I'm going to totally let go and live my life (said lovingly of course )?? I will compose a letter and wait for your reply before I send it (in case you've come up with something else after reading my reply). Thanks so much Michele...

WITW