I do have a couple questions regarding goals and Last Resort techiques. H and I have been separated for 6 months w/the "I think we should get divorced" coming from him a month ago. I've been in a 180 for almost a year (problems w/marriage happening over 3yrs when I was a WAW) but came back. I've stopped the chase, and have continued w/my life (work, going out w/friends) and have recently become less accessible- don't answer the phone, not home when he drops off our dog. When you say, be loving (pg 130- Step 5) I don't want to tread on his toes, but I also want him to know that I appreciate some of the things he has been doing. How "cool" is staying cool here. I don't want to blow him off either if he could be trying to get closer. Any thoughts? LJ
