I find that there is SO much info in your book that makes perfect sence and I have this almost uncontrolled need to have my H read the book. The problem is if I did somehow get him to read it he would also be reading about the LRT which is where I am at in the fight for my marraige.
We are seperated as of 4 weeks ago and the seperation comes because of a combonation of the maybe MLC and passion meltdown. I have always known that there is a spot within our marriage concerning the passion meltdown thing but passion has certainly NOT been void in our marriage in fact there has been an unbelievable amout of passion not only in the bedroom but in our everyday life! But according to my husband he has just been grinning and barring it for a long time.
Less than a year ago we relocated to another state for a job that he was offered. Due to some huge financial problems over the past 2 yrs we decided that our best shot at getting back on our feet was to except this job. Since we have been down here I have felt a different "attitude", if you will, surrounding our marriage and our family. Tried to discuss it with him in May but I knew he wasn't hearing me. I passed it off as he has alot of pressure from his new job and I sure didn't want to put any more un-do pressure on him. Just thought to myself that things will line out and be O.K.
In july we had a disagreement about which gas station sold disiel fuel and two days later he told me he didn't love me any more and intended to move out. Was very cocky about it, reduced our marriage and the last 11 years together as 80% exsisting, 10% happy and 10% miserable. He has been nothing but hateful and angry. The man I have been listening to and dealing with the past several weeks IS NOT the man I have been happily married to for the last 9 years. It has been unreal the things that have come out of his mouth!!
I have truely been blindsided and after reading your book and lots of other reading material I do think I have a com-bo of reasons why he has done what he has done. And I also feel, truely feel, that there is hope for us. I am not completly convinced but there may even be OW. I'm tellin ya, there is a whole lot of stuff goin on here and 2+2 is not adding up to 4 like he would like me to believe!!
So, what do you think, should I ask him to read the book or should I just try to remain calm and patient and keep on with the LRT? I would give anything if he would read chapter 13.Actualy, I would give anything if he would read the whole book!! He is probably the smarter one of us both and if I can read the book and extract so much from it wouldn't you think he would get some good from it?
I must thank you for the book, it is wonderful!! I hope and pray every day that I have the strength to get through all of this but in the end if we are able to put things back together it will all be worth it.
