Quote: That gives me hope and I will go back to DB.
The problem is that too many of us attach DBing to the marriage, which of course it has it's genesis in but after awhile, and in order for it to succeed, it has to be about us. It has to a way to live life, married, single, separated, divorced, etc.
Never stop DBing even if your W never speaks to you again. The fact is that you NEVER KNOW what turns yours sitch will take and when you can demonstrate a strength of character that sees you through the best of times and the worst of time with a sense of self that is unshakable, you will have won no matter what happens to your M.
I am not so niéve as to think we are all here on personal crusades to save ourselves. We are here to save our marriage but in the end, if successful, I THINK it ends up being because we DO learn how to save ourselves if that makes sense.
Keep plugging along. I don't think ANY situation is even cut and dried and yours seems far from that. She is still talking about working on things so...
Give her the space she wants, try to be open about the financial stuff and return to a place where you are most concerned about you, independent of what she may thing.
