My H and I have been separated for over 6 months. I have read DB and am in the process of reading the Divorce Remedy. Thank you for both books and this bulletin board!
My Q is about the 180. I have gone dark and stopped all initiating contact and I have tried being more in contact. Both 180's seem to work but only for a while. What seems to be happening is the my H is getting another life and the children and me are not going to be part of it. He does not have regular contact with the children and only wants contact with us when he intiates it. He seems to just have left with very little thought about the family he has left behind.
When my H does come over, the children and I are loving. He and I are still intimate. But then he leaves with no mention of when we'll see him again and it can be days. This has been especially hard on the children.
Do you have any suggestions for my situation? My H said I did not give him enough affection in our marriage and that is why he found someone else. Now, it's seems as if it is too late.
