Hi gang, I got this in my email. Here's the Q&A. *********************** Q. I've read DB and just finished The Divorce Remedy. 18 year marriage--2 kids 13D and 15S. Discovered affair 2 weeks ago -- supposedly its over. H says he wants to work on marriage but hasn't been making of an effort.
When I set up baby step goals to try to reach in a week or 2 am I supposed to review these goals with H or just work on them on my own?
A. Ask him if he'll read the book first since he says he wants to work on your marriage. Ask him to write down his goals because you'd like to talk to him about yours. Ask him how long he thinks he might need to do this. Set a date. Make sure you have read the chapter on infidelity and that he has too. If he's willing, talk about that chapter together. If he's not willing to do any of the above, don't talk about your goals with him. Just proceed on your own. There's a section at the end of the infidelity chapter that relates to you. Read it again. Best to you. Michele
