Get Out Alive . . .

[Tamashii]

Dear Emily,

Let me give a man's perspective on this. And no, I won't justify him for a second.

A few years ago, I got into an altercation with my wife. I did not lay a hand on her. However, I did get in her face. I slipped, she moved or something, and we ended up bumping heads. She got pis*ed and dialed 911, then quickly hung up. However, the PD console reads out your number and address, and we lived next door to a police substation. Needless to say, the cops were there in a heartbeat. My wife was having dental implants done, and had quite a few caps to cover the work in progress. One fell out, or she took it out, and it appeared to the police that I had knocked her tooth out. In short, I went to jail. They never figured out how I 'knocked' her tooth out without touching her face, but that's beside the point.

The point is that going to jail was good for me and taught me two big lessons:
1.) I was the man and I had a responsibility to keep the situation from escalating.
2.) If the situation DID escalate, I could remove myself from it, and there would be no situation. If there's only one boxer in the ring, there's no fight.

Your husband needs to spend a day or two behind bars. There's a chance it will wake him up.

I never let myself be dragged into that situation again. If my wife started yelling, I went into the other room, or down to the corner. There is no reason for a man to strike you unless he absolutely fears for his life. I mean you'd better be chasing his a** with a chain saw. I doubt this is the case here.
I saw your picture. Behind that mouse is a beautiful young girl. DBing be damned, the line is drawn at violence. Protect yourself and your children first. The situation will eventually settle down, and you can determine if the marriage is salvageable. His behavior through this will speak volumes about his character. Make no hasty decisions, except in the case of self protection. Listen to these people. They are very wise.

God bless you!
Love,

David