I'm sorry this happened to you. I am sick about it but you need to listen to me and do what I'm telling you to do.
Pick up the phone and call the Police. Not 911, dial the regular number in the phone book. Tell whoever answers what happened and that you want to file a complaint but can't get to the station. Have them send someone over immediately.
You are going to file a complaint against Kevin but it is going to be the officer that swears out a warrant for his arrest and that is going to be based on the damage to your eye.
Tell the officer the whole story. It's nothing they have not heard dozens of times. Embarrassment & shame will keep you bound in silence and this is your chance to do something to liberate yourself.
Kevin did not hit you because you were angry. Kevin did not hit you because you took a swing at him. Kevin hit you because he's a child. An immature, self-loathing SOB that has no sense of decency or what it means to be blessed. Tough sh*t for him. This so-called man has had chance after chance to pull himself up by the bootstraps and turn himself around. Instead he keeps screwing that slut Cassie and lying to you. This is where you let him know you will not stand for it anymore.
You said you don't want to get him in lots of trouble. What you need to accept is that KEVIN got HIMSELF into lots of trouble.
This is where you're going to actually do the one thing that is going to HELP your childrens father.
You know he's going to beat Cassie, too... (not that I really care right now). He's also going to hit Felina the first time she stands up to him oh around maybe 12 or 13 years old.
You're going to stop that from happening.
Kevin is going to go to jail. Then he'll make bail or be released on his own recognizance. He will be ordered to stay away from you. Someone will contact you from the local Victim-Witness program or the equivalent in your area. Then he will go to court. You won't have an option of dropping charges although he will try to get you to. It's not you that swears out the warrant remember? It's the officer. That is because so many abusive men used to talk their women out of going to court, getting them to drop the charges. Some women ended up dead because of that. So most states now (hopefully yours included) do things differently in domestic abuse situations. That way the pressure is off of the victim and that's what you are Emily. You're a victim. You weren't standing on equal ground when he hit you. You're a woman, you weigh less and you're shorter and he naturally has more upper body strength than you do. A real man knows this and would never hit a woman. A real man has respect for himself AND others. Kevin is a p*ssy. Sorry. That's the redneck in me coming out .
Get on the phone. It is time for Kevin to pay the piper. And you to start feeling the strength that is inside of you. Someone has to tell him "ENOUGH!". That person is going to be you.
If you don't, then 10 years up the road, when he hits Felina and she comes to you and you tell her that Daddy used to hit you, too....Felina is going to ask you what you did about it. You need to be able to tell her that you did the scariest thing you'd ever done in your life....you took a stand.
This is how you stand.
Pick up the phone.
Right now.
Once you meet with an officer, then call your parents.
The fact you have now done something will lessen their anger that you did nothing before.
They will be proud of you.
So will we.
Now Emily, I get to go sign my property settlement today and get my blood money. I'll be divorced within a couple months. I'm not happy right now. I'm not smiling.
When I get home, I want to read that you have done something about this.
Make me smile.
That's your challenge today .
Amy
(Emily, if things are different in your state and it IS you that has to press charges, I want you to do it)
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