Just dropping by. "Kicking him to the curb" right now may just entail detaching to another level. Your H doesn't know what he wants, who he wants to be with, etc. It is clear he struggles internally. He will go up and down back and forth many many times. The best thing you can do is detach to another level and let him go through what he needs to go through on his own.
It is so tough because we want them to know that we stand for our M - but in that sometimes we feel like they (our WASs) find it easier to walk away from us when we detach - that they erase us from their mind. This may be true, but they also have their mind poisoned by their mixed up view of the past. Part of me feels like they have to distance themselves from us - maybe even forget us for a while - before they start to miss us and what we brought to the M.
Ever hear Crossfade? Check out the song "No Giving Up". I thought it gave a good perspective of the LBSs and how our WASs think "There isn't any other way...".
