Pas, Of course, things look bleak right now. If you are going to continue to fight for your marriage despite the legal proceedings, you need to try to balance protecting yourself and your children- your att should help with this- and continually assessing how what you're doing will effect her. Usually, this goals are at cross-purposes so it makes things tricky. I wrote about this in the section about the legal system.
I know it's devastating when you're faced with losing everything that's important to you. It's not clear to me why she's willing to continue to go for counseling. What does she say about this? What's the goal?
Don't lose heart. You'll find your way. Keep posting here and DBing.
