Thanks for the response. To answer your question, I think it has already escalated to violence.
I do know what the right decision is. It certainly isn't the easiest.
Luckily, an event like yesterday isn't an everyday occurance. But, it does happen. About a year or so ago I threw him out for the very same thing. Sent him to go stay somewhere else until he cooled off and thought about his temper. He admitted then it was a problem...but now it's MY problem because I am making a "big deal" out of it. That is was a mere accident.
My hurdle is living in another state then my family. I am out in the woods. I have no siupport and no neighbors or friends in the area. The house is in my name but I can't afford it on my own. If I ask him to leave I am stuck out here totally alone with my kids.
He has gotten much better at manipulation. I can't put my thoughts together. He tells me a lot of this is my fault and I believe him. I feel useless, worthless, like I can't do anything right and like if I choose to leave that I don't care about my family.
I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.
Me-32 WAH-35 DD-11 DS-4 H left 11-03 Piecing- 12/04 WAH again- 03/07 Married 12 years Divorce final May 15, 2007