There is a lot of anger. On his part. He has always had sort of a temper. Sometimes, he can control it, other times he can't. I am the type that when I get angry...I get quiet and isolate myself from what is making me angry.
We have tried counseling and it really did more harm then good. H was livid that the C thought he was controlling and manipulative...and that his anger and breaking things...was just another control technique. He will not face his demons and face the fact that he does have issues with this. I was in C alone and that too caused a great deal of anxiety in our M. He wanted to know every week what was discussed. Any books or reading material my C gave me he wouldn't allow in the house. (The Verbally Abusive Relationship, etc.) So, C has been tried and shot down.
H has been this way since I married him. He gets very angry and lashes out. He knows it's wrong....but sometimes he just can't control it.
So, he basically thinks he can do no wrong and I am the one who is holding us back. I know that I am not giving thi smy all right now. I just have to try and find out why and whether or not I actually can.
I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.
Me-32 WAH-35 DD-11 DS-4 H left 11-03 Piecing- 12/04 WAH again- 03/07 Married 12 years Divorce final May 15, 2007
