from my perspective i am a higher desire spouse, but i wouldn't say abnormally HD. i would say my wife is LD though. if i didn't broach the issue, i think she'd be fine not making love.
i think she's very confused that i have a need to get fulfillment sexually in order to feel good about myself; that i am "needy"...
i do need to know i am loved and accepted. when you share yourself with someone in an intimate way, that is a form of acceptance which is very special in my opinion, where in contrast, just getting off is very superficial.
fyi for any W reading this thread, men who love their wives very much also want to please their wifes. we want to be good lovers, and we want to be viewed as very important to you... we are not looking to merely experience release.
and our egos can be frail. we also experience a downturn in our own sexual response as perhaps tell-tale signs something is affecting our mind and body, or that we are simply getting older.
but when you've been suffering years of rejection (power thing), and then the sex ramps from fairly infrequent (once every 2 weeks maybe) to nothing as well, it affects you profoundly.
i can't seem to get an i love you, or thanks, or sorry or whatever unless it is solicited now. there seems to be nothing heart-felt.
it's very (i could write that word many times) sad.
when the person in your life that you love on all levels finds you unacceptable, what do you have?
