2 weeks ago we made love. wife enjoyed it (or said so). she probably did it out of guilt though as it had been about 3.5-4 months since the last time
Or it could have been because she read the book and wanted to try and make some changes.
Or she decided to express her love for you in the language you appreciate the most.
What purpose is served by mentally & emotionally discounting what occurred?
Quote: this morning she said she was in the mood i think motivated by us setting up a vacation overseas around work. we start but can't find any lubricant, so that hunt turns me off and i suggest we go buy some and have a mommy and daddy meeting in the evening.
that falls on deaf ears, after hunting about and not finding any...she relocks the BR door, and masterbates herself with my penis and starts to lubricate, we get going, and the kids loose interest in what they were doing and start breaking down the door. that does it for me and i loose it and start raising my voice because i'm beyond frustrated. how convenient for her. this does in another rare opportunity... wife not interested (at all) this evening. more fault finding - this time with my reaction to the situation.
"how convenient for her."
I can understand the massive riptides of anger that you as HD spouse can be battling, but it does not serve you or your marriage to entertain this line of thought.
She intiates.
Pushes past the lack of lube.
Masterbates with your penis.
Kids interrupt.
She's willing to keep going.
You lose it and are blaming her for the situation & result.
She later tells you that she's no longer interested because of the interactions earlier.
You blame her, she blames you.
Can you see where you had several opportunities to turn this around to something positive?
