OT, In truth I wasn't being sarcastic. I know I am controlling and I need to back off of them (our kids) a bit as well. When I was in couseling this is something we touched upon. She asked me what do I do if I ask my kids to make their bed and it doesn't look "right". Well, the old me goes in and fixes it. Now I know this is sending them a bad message, therefore I don't do it anymore.
Quote: For instance, I can only imagine how much you must resent his extracurriculars when you are on a tight budget. Responsible fathers do not disappear for extended periods of time. And, there is a big difference between your drink after work and H spending a day at a bar without telling anyone.
The above is EXACTLY how I feel. I harbor so much resentment. I am the one that handles the bills and get extremely frustrated when I explain that we have no money and then he goes out drinking or whatever all afternoon. I feel totally disrepected. I sacrifice to make ends meet yet he doesn't feel the need to. BTW, alot of the debt was incurred while in was in the midst of his A.
I think the best thing for me right now is to back off and keep my mouth shut.
