Betsey, thank you for giving me something to work on.
Quote: What are the behaviors *you* think that give him the perception that he's a little boy and you have the control?
This is going to really be hard. "Mothering" is something that I have learned from my own mother. While it works for her and my Dad, it definitely doesn't work for me and my H.
This is going to be easier said than done I'm afraid. I might have to use the cognitive approach and repeat it over and over in my head "I am not H's mother, he is my equal."
He works many hours and gets up around 3:30 a.m. for work so one of the things I do for him is make his lunch the night before. Is this too motherly or am I being a caring wife?
I know that I shouldn't question him on his whereabouts but in light of the sitch it is because I don't trust him.
Uggh.....I am going to really have to do some deep thinking on this one. Any other ideas always welcome.
