Underdog, I'm so glad your back around. I missed your wonderful advice. Thank you!
I agree that not arguing is not healthy. Now that we are I am uncomfortable with it so I guess that is my issue to deal with i.e. my controlling personality.
Again, he thinks things are fine and getting better. Why am I challenging him? I need to think about that one. Actually I guess it is my need to control rearing it's ugly head again.
He just called me a few minutes ago and we talked for about 15 minutes and he sounded wonderful and loving and thanked me for making his lunch even though I got home from work after midnight.
I wrote this on Confused Mess's thread, which BTW if you have time please help this man before he blows everything, my couselor told me to repeat to myself 20 times a day until it sunk in "If I try to fix it, I will only make it worse." I really need to start chanting that mantra again.
