Yes, he's projecting onto you. You know that. Don't you DARE give up now mama. You and I both lied when we said that if we ML'ed, it would be a HUGE step. We both did and now we are both still fretting about everything. I admit that you maybe have more issues in terms of the emotional distance than I do with my W but still, you have come SO far (and often, lol, sorry all) that you can't stop now. You want perfection. You want the affair to have been the only issue and now that it's gone for the most part, you want things to be wonderful and are angry that they're not.
Stop making him responsible for keeping you happy. You learned not to do that along the way and now you seem to be relying on him again. If he is being distant, then take that distance and run with it. Do something you like to do and when he's ready, hopefully he'll open up to you.
DO NOT GO WAS on us! Stay strong and do this thing!
