Hi MamaBear, This is great progress for both of you, I think You said you were upset, he told you that it made him defensive, you softened but told him you were feeling a bit insecure, he came home, told you he loved you, reassured you, cuddled you and ML with you and then you also had a conversation about the part each of you play in behaviors that don't work for your partnership (and being able to count on each other) and how you might like it to be different. Wowie, so many goodies here. And on top of that, just for you, you had some insights about behaviors you might want to work on. Mama, you are the tops. You see, you belong in piecing! You are piecing yourself and your M together, for a new and higher standard of what it means to be whole. I am proud of you, Mama! And I am really glad you guys are That is so good, I will enjoy it through you until one day maybe I will get some with my H. Enjoy Mama! Life is rich.
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You said you were upset, he told you that it made him defensive, you softened but told him you were feeling a bit insecure, he came home, told you he loved you, reassured you, cuddled you and ML with you 
and then you also had a conversation about the part each of you play in behaviors that don't work for your partnership (and being able to count on each other) and how you might like it to be different. Wowie, so many goodies here. And on top of that, just for you, you had some insights about behaviors you might want to work on. Mama, you are the tops. You see, you belong in piecing! You are piecing yourself and your M together, for a new and higher standard of what it means to be whole. I am proud of you, Mama! And I am really glad you guys are 