Hi PL,
Thanks for checking up on me. H called around 5 and yes I was pissed. I said why can't you just call me and tell me that you are going out? He started to get defensive and even said so, so I backed off a bit. I told him you don't have to ask my permission, you can do what you want, all I would like is for you to check in with me and let me know. He said he was sorry, he went to the bar and started drinking and lost track of time. I apologized for going off on him and told him I was feeling a little insecure today (without any details why), he said I didn't need to be insecure that he loved me very much.

When he came home I was in our room with the kids folding laundry. He layed down on the bed and asked me to lay with him. He hugged me really tight with both arms and legs and we were like that for about an hour. He said this is where he wants to be, it feels so good.

After we got the kids out of the room we ML and proceeded to have a good rest of the night.

PL, you are right about me. I am either super calm and let things slide or I blow up in anger. I will work on staying somewhere in the middle.

My boundary is, is you are not going to be home when you said you were to call me and check in. That's all and I told him as much. He commented that he never knows when I am coming home after work because I usually stay and have an after shift drink so I guess it is only fair that he be allowed to do the same.

Anyway, all is well again.