Hi Mama!! SOOO glad to see you here!!! I am so proud of you!!! You moved "up" in threads!
As for me....I started here, and sadly am in MLC...moved WAAAY back into the pits of hell...ha ha ha! It's funny for me to come to this forum...remembering back in the day when I thought my sitch was far different than what it is. In ways it's easier, since it has less to do with ME.
Anyway, back to YOU. Keep doing what you're doing. Strike while the iron is hot and all those nice sayings. Really, you have shown a tremendous amount of determination through this....by not being pushy, being patient, yet still trying and keeping the hope. Stay doing just those things and your day will come when you and H talk this through.
If you're at this stage, I suggest what I tried earlier in the year....the whole Love Bank theory. Striving for positive actions, words and moments. Focus back on LL's, too. Try to make every moment with H a positive one...smile, laugh, be confident, happy, and just your radiant self.
I wrote on SE's thread the little nice things that I did, and though simple, I was horrified to realize how much of the basic nice things I had forgotten todo with H as time went on. It made a big difference....just saying "TY for working so hard for us and supporting us..." At first it sounded corny....but when I said it he was floored and appreciated it.
I think those things made a difference too....recently when we had our emotional talks, he said he believed I HAD changed, he was just not ready to take it in. At least I know the effort made some impact and it was worth it.
Your H seems that he responds back to your efforts, too.
