I think all of us LBS has this "sub-conscious" or even "conscious" mind that needs our WAS to be here for us all the time, in terms of time and attention..and we somewhat feel/think that they are thinking about op when they don't give us the time/attention that we think we deserve. AM I making sense? We have to learn to let-go and occupy our thoughts with other things.. outside of our WAS, or their moods etc. We need to keep busy with things that we like to do. So, if our WAS seems alittle bit distant, do not bug them, do not second-guess about anything. Just divert our own attention/thoughts to US. Not in the sense of "poor me, My feelings are hurt etc etc".. but more of doing stuff.. read, do puzzles, cook, run, swim, paint..whatever..just shift our focus away from our WAS.. think it has helped in that sense for me. I watch telly or talk to my kids or whatever, and with that, I see H does re-start the connection with a conversation or intimacy...
