Hiya..I think all of us LBS gets dissapointed once in a while. SOmetimes, I think it's our stupid brains that tells us to feel dissapointed because of H's past wrongdoing and it's our RIGHT to feel dissapointed and that H be feeling guilty etc etc...
Alot of times, looking back...H is trying hard to reconnect and to be affectionate, and there goes my stupid LBS brain that wants him to be guilty, to feel bad etc etc.. and then I give him a hard time even when he has not done anything bad in the present.. So this has to STOP.
One thing that I agree is that the WAS cannot zap back immediately to only loving us... and as if the op did not ever exist...Many times when I expressed some discontentment, my H would say "it takes time. you cannot expect everything to be back to normal immediately. please dont stir things up. Things are fine and are getting better"... So, bottom line is PATIENCE!!!!
My deduction-
* Once the WAS decides to commit to the M for real, they want to move forward.
* The past with the op reminds them of their guilt and wrongdoings. Thus, they do not want to go there...
* The WAS will try to reconnect/ do things to "redeem" themselves in the ways they know how (we may not agree on the ways, though...so will not see it as redemption)
* WAS will slowly try to "work" things/words/routines that they have experienced with op into life with LBS... will normally start off small ...then working up???
Well...that's my non-expert deduction anyway...
I've just got a text from my H that says "Nite nite hun"... (well, huney was what they used to call each other..)... so, I guessed in time (PATIENCE..my dear), the word huney will just mean ME and ME alone... and no longer for ow at all...
