Quote: When I took an SSRI a few years ago, I found that it did not affect my libido, just my ability to reach an O.
I found the same thing, sort of. I was going through a rough time last fall, and doc put me on zoloft. at first it slowed me down a bit...not a bad thing from this side of the fence ...but that didn't last, and sort of morphed into not being able to function at all. It can take a few weeks for the full effect of these drugs to kick in. Anyway, it did dampen my libido quite a bit. And I had exactly the same thoughts as ComfortablyNumb before this!! If I can't bring hers up, maybe I can knock mine down!! LOL! makes sense, but didn't work out too well. Its not that I didn't ever want it; its just that the weeks that normally seperate our encounters didn't seem so long. I just didn't think about it as much. Problem was, I didnt' care about much of anything else, either. And I always thought I was a "yeah, whatever" type of person before. HA! that was Nuthin' compared to "zoloft-me". I couldn't get anything done at work...couldn't get anything done at home...just didn't care about anything at all. "Comfortably Numb" is the perfect description of that state. One day, it just dawned on me what was going on, and got off the stuff, and slowly emerged from the fog. yes, there are different drugs, and different doses...people spend months and months trying to "fine tune" it; I didn't want to go through months and months of feeling like that. After doing alot of reading on the subject, I decided that this is just not "the way". at least, not for me. It actually seemed to amplify more depresive symptoms than it alleviated.
Anyhow, CM: BT/DT...know how you feel. The same themes run rampid throughout. Lots of key words in your post ring a bell loudly: Chore... Desire... Resentment... Initiate... Self Esteem... Persue... I hope you find some help here.
...but that didn't last, and sort of morphed into not being able to function at all. 
It can take a few weeks for the full effect of these drugs to kick in. Anyway, it did dampen my libido quite a bit. And I had exactly the same thoughts as ComfortablyNumb before this!! If I can't bring hers up, maybe I can knock mine down!! LOL! makes sense, but didn't work out too well. Its not that I didn't ever want it; its just that the weeks that normally seperate our encounters didn't seem so long. I just didn't think about it as much. Problem was, I didnt' care about much of anything else, either. And I always thought I was a "yeah, whatever" type of person before. HA! that was Nuthin' compared to "zoloft-me". I couldn't get anything done at work...couldn't get anything done at home...just didn't care about anything at all. "Comfortably Numb" is the perfect description of that state. One day, it just dawned on me what was going on, and got off the stuff, and slowly emerged from the fog. yes, there are different drugs, and different doses...people spend months and months trying to "fine tune" it; I didn't want to go through months and months of feeling like that. After doing alot of reading on the subject, I decided that this is just not "the way". at least, not for me. It actually seemed to amplify more depresive symptoms than it alleviated. 
