Long story. H is a meticulous guy and cleans up everything the way he cleans his computer. There are no cookies to check and why would I check since he has told me he uses porn. I consider it an ethical violation to hack into his computer. I woudn't consider it so if I thought I was being lied to.
For you - have you read Passionate Marriage? That is a much favored marital tome for the folks on this site. it might go a long way to explain some of her resistances and yours.
