Thanks for the thoughts. All his extra-curricular porn activity is unknowable to me. His computer is totally private with a private password and he maintains the network and cleans the computer regularly - he works from home sometimes. I use a separate computer. Actually, I have a marital book collection that would rival most therapists and I have been a regular on here for a couple of years. I have tried various "plans". Every once in a while I see a posting that piques my interest like yours did. Mostly, I submerge my sexuality and often feel LD like you. For me, it is rarely a true LD - feels a little like putting the saran wrap on while the leftovers are still boiling - it might be covered but the steam underneath is forming a tent. Anyway, you did give me some things to think about.
