Chromes reply was very good. Sorry for the earlier hijack - Lil and I had a little side convo going. Believe me, I know the pain of being the HDW and the feeling that I must be fatally flawed if my H doesn't want to have sex with me OR as others have suggested, maybe its' him. Well, I suppose either could be the case but more likely, it is the marital dynamic that is off kilter. Many marriage therapists (Harville Hendrix and David Schnarch among others) have said that marriages are SUPPOSED to go off kilter to give us a chance to grow up, resolve our issues and be better people. It isn't easy but there is lots of help here and elsewhere (books, therapy etc...)
