Quote: JM, Counseling was pretty much a waste of time. We mostly focused on the root of the problem...my unhappiness and my depression. But I wasn't truthful about it so what good could it possibly do? I know exaclty why I'm depressed. Just going through the motions....unless I spill all I can't work on the M......
this sucks
If you think you are depressed just because you miss OW, what you are missing is the POINT. Perhaps I have misunderstood something... There IS a root here alright but it's not her, the affair OR the fact you miss her.
See, it's true what you're being told. She was a bandaid. So what if she was one of those "special" ones that have the cutesy pictures on it? A bandaid still serves ONE purpose and that is to hide an oozing, open wound.
She is an illusion. A LIE. So was your relationship.
The sooner you dig deeper and find out what your REAL issues are, THEN you'll know you have something to actually be depressed about. Because if you think missing her is rough, wait til you start working on your deepest issues... That's when "this sucks" is gonna take on a whole new meaning.
You've done the right thing here. Now set your mind to follow through.
