Just a quick re-cap to give some context to the questions. Saves having to plough through my previous threads too. Re-writing history a little with the benefit of hindsight.
Bomb dropped:May 2005 W moved out:July 2006 W moved in with OM (aka Mr B):December 2006 M:17 yrs Children:S15, D12 (spend 1 week with Mum, 1 week with Dad)
Last Christmas Day the children stayed with me. MIL stopped with me over Christmas. W came across Christmas morning and stayed for lunch. New Year children stayed with Mum and Mr B. I went out.
This year W asked if it was OK if she and Mr B went out this New Years Eve. I said that was fine since I did last year. She also said that the children should come to me for Christmas and she would come across, as she had last year, and stay for Christmas lunch. Two questions:
1. A friend of mine said to me. "Why don't you invite Mr B for Christmas lunch too, it would show you had moved on". Should I?
2. Should I say to my W. "Why don't the children come to you at Christmas instead, then they can open their presents and have lunch with you?". The children stayed with me last year after all and is that what she is hoping I will say?
