Think it's understandable that you are "timid". It's going to take a while after whats happened. Signs are good though.
The children are OK-ish. S14 is now S15 and going through adolesence and all that entails. He's finding school a challenge now he has started the first of his two GCSE years. School he is at works them really, really hard with a lot of homework. It's a good school, gets results but puts the pupils under a lot of pressure. S15 has had a few run ins with teachers at school so it hasn't been good at times. Result often is that it causes conflict at home both for me and his Mum. S15 needs to be pushed to do his homework when often he is tired from a tough day at school. One such confrontation with his Mum resulted in S15 saying things would have been different if "Mum and Dad" hadn't split up.
Not sure about the week with Mum and week with Dad arrangement. Certainly for me the day when they leave to spend a day with their Mum is still a real downer. Just wonder if it's the best way. Means we each see equal amounts of the children but the toing/froing every week must be unsettling for them. Would having one place as a base work better?
Work for me is still hectic. Looks like being that way for a while.
I'll keep an eye out for your new thread Matilda. Have a good weekend.
