Ok Andy, I am waiting. I just won't hold my breath since it's been months since you were here. I am looking forward to hearing from you, though! Sun, sea, and sand sound so relaxing!
Stayed at Cala D'Or when I went to Majorca. I didn't take a camera although I managed to get a small number of piccies with my mobile/cell phone. I'll connect the phone to my laptop and upload them somewhere. I went without the children this time and it WAS pretty much Sun, Sea and Sand (and not forgetting the beer and food of course) which don't make for great photos but it is very relaxing as you say. I just wanted to chill and get a tan at the same time. I'll be back shortly with more....
So you could say sun, sea, sand and suds (for the beer) How is life treating you now? How are the children? How are you doing when the children are gone? Staying busy?
Life is treating me fine. Work is keeping me occupied. A couple of big projects have reached important milestones. So lots of extra hours. Compounded by the fact that a couple of folk left in July so their work had to be spread round. D12's equestrian activities take up some time too. So with the remainder I do manage to get out and socialise. It's the housework that's had to take a backseat but I figure a bit of "procrastination" on that front won't hurt for a while.
Here's a link to the only piccies I had from my holiday but you can see what I was thinking.... . I've supplemented them with a bit of human interest.
I see your last thread locked up Matilda....so I guess you might still be thinking of where to start the next one? Here's my quick two-p...I'd go for "Piecing".
Remember the phrase "what you focus on expands" (you see it a lot on the BB). It would be a very positive step. You'd be in good company too and I'm sure all your friends on the BB would still find you.
Hi Andy. Nothing exciting going on here...thus the lack of a new thread. Guess I'm trying to make sure I have met my own goals before I can fully expand on our marital relationship. H keeps assuring me he is home to stay, but I am still a bit timid.
How are your children? Still doing the weekly "trade off"? Has your job slowed down at all?
Think it's understandable that you are "timid". It's going to take a while after whats happened. Signs are good though.
The children are OK-ish. S14 is now S15 and going through adolesence and all that entails. He's finding school a challenge now he has started the first of his two GCSE years. School he is at works them really, really hard with a lot of homework. It's a good school, gets results but puts the pupils under a lot of pressure. S15 has had a few run ins with teachers at school so it hasn't been good at times. Result often is that it causes conflict at home both for me and his Mum. S15 needs to be pushed to do his homework when often he is tired from a tough day at school. One such confrontation with his Mum resulted in S15 saying things would have been different if "Mum and Dad" hadn't split up.
Not sure about the week with Mum and week with Dad arrangement. Certainly for me the day when they leave to spend a day with their Mum is still a real downer. Just wonder if it's the best way. Means we each see equal amounts of the children but the toing/froing every week must be unsettling for them. Would having one place as a base work better?
Work for me is still hectic. Looks like being that way for a while.
I'll keep an eye out for your new thread Matilda. Have a good weekend.
Just a quick re-cap to give some context to the questions. Saves having to plough through my previous threads too. Re-writing history a little with the benefit of hindsight.
Bomb dropped:May 2005 W moved out:July 2006 W moved in with OM (aka Mr B):December 2006 M:17 yrs Children:S15, D12 (spend 1 week with Mum, 1 week with Dad)
Last Christmas Day the children stayed with me. MIL stopped with me over Christmas. W came across Christmas morning and stayed for lunch. New Year children stayed with Mum and Mr B. I went out.
This year W asked if it was OK if she and Mr B went out this New Years Eve. I said that was fine since I did last year. She also said that the children should come to me for Christmas and she would come across, as she had last year, and stay for Christmas lunch. Two questions:
1. A friend of mine said to me. "Why don't you invite Mr B for Christmas lunch too, it would show you had moved on". Should I?
2. Should I say to my W. "Why don't the children come to you at Christmas instead, then they can open their presents and have lunch with you?". The children stayed with me last year after all and is that what she is hoping I will say?
I am looking forward to hearing from you, though! Sun, sea, and sand sound so relaxing! 
