Patience, Love and (really) long suffering

[BeingMe]

Hi Phoenix! I think you're on the right track, letting your W own her own problems and issues. It's funny how, many people think that perfectionism, or being a perfectionist, is thought to be a positive trait. However, I find that people (and my H has this trait, but is not as bad as he used to be) who admit to being a perfectionist, just want things done their way, implying, of course, that their way is the right and only way. Kinda selfish and self-serving and controlling, isn't it? My H also used to like to be thought of as easygoing, but he was controlling in a passive-aggressive way, and always boasted of being a perfectionist. I wonder if this is a trait of all or majority of WAS's.

You sound like you're in a peaceful zone, within yourself, and detached from your W's craziness. Keep it up, my friend.