VeryCrazy - I'm give you my 2 cents... as I am trying to call off my EA and turn around my own MLC.... I don't think there is anything my H could do to help me. Its an addiction to the OM that I have. Its a selfish thing of my own. He can't change that - I have to want to and make the steps to break my addiction. I feel somewhat lucky that my OM cares for me enough to honor my wishes... that I want to give my marriage one last shot and I can't do that while he & I are having an EA. OM is making efforts to leave me alone as well. Its a tough addiction to break. I am grieving a loss of someone I care about deeply, a relationshp that I am very attached to. Show your H signs that you love him in ways he needs to hear. Give him space. Take care of you and do what is good for you. Be patience. Baby steps - for both you and your H. Hang in there DRS
