****If you love your wife and want to move forward, why are you finding it hard to forget the OW?
As twisted as it is, an affair is a relationship. There are real feelings. The OW fills a void and makes you feel "whole". Once the OW is gone you miss the OW but you also miss that feeling of being "whole"
****Why are you NOW realizing what a wonderful person your wife is and that there is too much at risk to throw away???!!! Is it guilt that has led you to feel like this?
Guilt is somewhat a part of it, but you get to a point where you see how wrong it is and you see things for what they are. Not all OW, but many are just selfish people. Once you compare your wife to this, she looks good by comparison.
Mike am I too far off base? I would like to hear your take. Plus, feel free to shoot me an e-mail. I am just fresh off my affair and have shared some of the same battles.