Mike, I agree with flip. It take a lot of character to do what you're doing. Obviously, all of us here on this board do not see infidelity as a death sentence, which is why we're all here. Many of us wish our spouses would do what you're doing and have the courage to face your demons. But for many of us, our Hs are not at that level of realization. May I ask, does your W know about the A? Whether she did or she didn't, what drove you to realize that you wanted to be with your W and not OW?
flip,
Quote: We don't have any children, which makes it harder to save our marriage, I think.
I see your point to a degree, but I find that having kids makes this whole thing so much harder. I am so lucky to have them and they are the ray of sunshine in my hurricane, but the thought of breaking our family apart kills me. I feel like it would be easier to focus on saiving the M if kids were not involved. I have to deal with, "where's daddy". That kills me. I think you have a better chance of focusing on how to save your M becasue you don't have kids. I guess you can see pros and cons to both sides.
