I'm so glad you've had the strength of character to return to your wife. My H has done the exact same thing you did, had an affair with a co-worker, but he's going full steam ahead with the D, is convinved we don't have anything in common and shouldn't be married. We don't have any children, which makes it harder to save our marriage, I think.
Out of interest, how did you realise that you wanted to return to your wife? Were you conviced the OW was 'the one'?
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself. Galileo Galilei
