How to handle H in separate room

[inpain_dup1]

Thank you Cat I will make sure next time I see him that I say I understand he needs some time and space.

I can't believe that being ill after having our baby has led to my H not loving me anymore and leaving.

Is that the real reason? or are you trying to blame yourself somehow?

Unfortunately it seems to me that is the real reason - that is why I feel so hurt. Everyone kept telling H that he needed to get me some help and he didn't (because I was terrified to get any - but even so he listened to me and not them when they were the sane ones)

H has pretty much said that he left because of how the last two years have been and that when I stopped being ill I'd already knocked all the feelings and love out of him so when I was better he wasn't loving towards me which in turn made me react by nagging so now he sees it as all me and doesn't see that he has any part in it.